It’s been said that we’re made of stardust. I absolutely love the idea that you and I are here to dazzle the world with our brilliance, just like stars. Simply by being yourself. So why can this prove to be so challenging at times?
It would seem that many of us came into this world with temporary amnesia and have simply forgotten the truth of our divine brilliance. Every now and then, though, reminders show up and our lights shine a little brighter with each encounter.
I’m sure you’ve been that reminder for others and you can probably recall those who rekindled your inner flame. It’s often so much easier to see the brilliance in others than to acknowledge it within yourself, right? Well, what if you made a pact with your divine self that from this moment onwards, you have permission to dazzle the world with your brilliance? Are you game?
No need to seek approval from anyone else.
No need to keep up appearances and pretend to be somebody or something that you’re not.
No need to apologize for what makes you uniquely you and brilliantly qualified to express your gifts and talents in the way only you can.
Can you feel the relief in that? Or is it triggering all kinds of thoughts and emotions?
I’ve discovered that the biggest obstacle to dazzling the world with my brilliance was the desire to belong. From a very young age I felt like I didn’t fit in. It was is if I’d gotten off at the wrong planet. Ever felt that way? I did my best to adapt to fit in and during that process I developed an extraordinary people pleaser, the untangling and releasing of which has been quite the process and is still acting out at times!
It wasn’t until fairly recently that I realized there was nothing wrong with this desire to belong. After all, this seems to be embedded into most people so perhaps it’s simply part of the human experience. I just had to let go of wanting to belong in environments that did not support my resonance. This called on me to exercise discernment.
Over the years I’ve been part of spiritual communities where there were unspoken agreements to only shine to a certain extent so as not to outshine anyone else. Heaven forbid you actually made a profit by living your soul’s calling. It was a rude awakening that took me by surprise. I’ve also been in relationships where I was told I was too much and asked if I could just dim it down. Needless to say, I didn’t stick around. Not because I was eager to leave but because my commitment to evolving in consciousness would ultimately ‘win’.
This used to bring up deep grief because somewhere along the way I had chosen to believe that being true to myself implied that sooner or later I would end up alone. In order to avoid this I came to the conclusion that I needed to dim my light in order to survive in this world.
When it finally dawned on me that I had allowed an inaccurate belief to run my life, the real fun began. Knowing about something at a conceptual level is one thing. Internalizing this into embodied wisdom is quite another. As much as I had thought I was being true to myself, it was quite a shocker when I saw the ways I had betrayed my own soul. How? By making it more important that others didn’t feel uncomfortable in my presence than trusting that those who resonate with my brilliance would celebrate being in my life and those who didn’t would simply turn away.
It was the fear of everybody turning away that kept me hostage to this program.
I’ve witnessed this time and time again in my own life and the lives of others.
If you’re currently going through an expansion phase – and really, who isn’t? – and find yourself no longer resonating with friends or family members then just remember this is part of the journey.
The tendency may be to hold on. What often gets in the way of letting go is the fear of what they might think or feeling guilty for abandoning them as you make your divine self priority #1. Or perhaps your favorite way to be held back is obligation. This one is particularly prevalent when it comes to family members. Ever find yourself saying yes to family invitations when you’d rather be elsewhere? Bingo, obligation has a hold of you.
The key to setting yourself free from these obstacles so that you can dazzle the world with your brilliance? BE yourself.
Or as Dr Seuss sums it up:
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
The brilliance in me celebrates the brilliance in you.
