Magnetizing your soulmate will require inner shifts and vibrational alignment to attract the soulmate partner you desire to manifest to live your dream life. This was one of the most profound lessons I learned on my own soulmate manifestation journey.
It wasn’t that long ago that I was longing for my soulmate to share my life with.
I really believed that all I had to do was “find” this incredible person and all my problems, as well as insecurities and deep feelings of loneliness, unworthiness, distrust, being undesirable, and feeling unlovable would just magically disappear once I found “the one.”
Sound familiar?
So that’s what I focused my energies and efforts on–finding the one. After several years of being committed to what I thought was a logical approach of seek and find, I never “found” him and all the things I most desired to feel and experience still eluded me.
Yes, in my mind my prince in shining armor was going to swoop in and life would be as perfect as I could possibly fantasize it to be. The reality I discovered was as magical as the Law of Attraction is, finding your soulmate is not a fairytale where the princess doesn’t have to do anything but play the damsel in distress to manifest her prince.
In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
Which brings me back to explaining why, when magnetizing your soulmate, you must do it from the inside out. After years of empty searching, I was frustrated and devastated that the Law of Attraction and Manifestation “worked for other people, but not for me.”
Have you ever felt this way?
You see others happily in relationships, doing things together, having fun, holding hands, and experiencing all that you desire for a relationship too, yet it has not happened for you yet.
You might wonder, like I did, “why has this not happened for me yet? What am I doing wrong?” It wasn’t until I dove deeper into the Universal laws and practices that I fully understood that like energy attracts like energy and we attract what we are.
I realized if this was true, I had some work to do to be ready for my soulmate.
Before I did the needed work on myself, everything I was doing to manifest my soulmate was coming from a woman who was unfulfilled with who SHE WAS…poised to attract exactly what she didn’t want.
She wasn’t taking responsibility or being accountable for her own life and what she wanted out of it. She thought it was ok to dump that responsibility onto her soulmate.
If we examine the principle that like energy attracts like energy, and we attract what we are…who do you think that version of me was going to be attracting into my life?It makes me shudder just thinking about it.
I began to do the inside work to shift my limiting beliefs about myself and what I was capable of by becoming the person I wanted to attract as my soulmate.
The decisions I was making and the actions I was taking that were necessary to embody the values, characteristics and traits of my soulmate allowed me to heal, trust myself, open my heart and begin to love myself which all led to a new self-confidence.
What my current soulmate received after I had done the inside work was a confident woman with an open heart that believed she was worthy of the high caliber soulmate she had manifested.
I was in energetic alignment with him possessing and embodying the values, qualities, and characteristics that he had done the work to become.
It’s important to remember that the high caliber soulmate you desire is looking for his/her high caliber soulmate.
That is why magnetizing your soulmate is an inside job.
This work wasn’t accomplished overnight, although once I figured this all out, I did get right to it spending my time and energy working on becoming who I was desiring to attract.
Once this happened, God and the Universe allowed him to show up when I was on a solo trip to Paris…but that is another story.
So at this point you may be thinking, ok, I get this inside job concept, but HOW do I really get started on this or do this in my life–become this version of myself I want to be when my soulmate comes into my life?
As a soulmate manifestation coach, one of the core things I work with my private clients, as well as those in The Soulmate Solution program, is to help women truly get clarity about the values, traits and characteristics of their desired soulmate and then embody them.
If this is not done, you will continue to attract into your life what you don’t want, which is probably the version of yourself you are currently being if you haven’t done the work to elevate yourself to your best version.
The Universe will bring in who you are and what you energetically align with so you must get clear on who you desire.
Here are some steps you may find helpful to begin magnetizing your soulmate:
- Get very clear on the values, qualities, and characteristics you want in a soulmate partner.
- Once you have defined this list, do a deep self-audit by going down this list and journaling to the prompt: How am I doing this or embodying this in my own life and with myself.
- For the values, qualities, and characteristics that the audit and journaling reveal that you need to do some work around to be what you are expecting or desiring in your soulmate, decide at least one baby step or one way to support yourself in these identified areas. Now, take action. As you accomplish the first small step, take another, and another until living that way becomes your norm.
- As you develop this awareness about what you desire in a soulmate and start doing the “inside job” of becoming those things yourself, you can use this awareness as a powerful decision making tool in your life by asking the question, “What would I want my soulmate to do?” or “How would my soulmate respond?” and finish the question with…that would make me feel: safe, respected, worthy, valued, cherished, or LOVED…all the things you most desire to feel.
By making that decision, or taking that action, you start the process of taking responsibility and being accountable for creating these feelings and experiences in life for yourself.
From my experience, your life completely changes when you start to do the inside work and become the elevated version of your soulmate yourself.
Your soulmate love you are destined to share your life with will appreciate that he/she isn’t expected to come into your life and do all the work to fix every problem and issue you have and make you feel and experience all that you desire.
Because I had done the inside work before my soulmate arrived, we get to allow each other to continue to grow individually and together while supporting each other in living the life of our dreams…I guess there was a bit of a fairytale ending after all…I just didn’t have to be the damsel in distress to have it happen.
