When was the last time YOU felt rejuvenated, renewed, energized and fully alive?
When was the last time you took time out to nurture you, experience pleasure or have fun without a niggle guilt involved?
How many times are you going to tell yourself, “I’ll enjoy ___________ when I have more time?”
Now you might not think I know you because we haven’t met yet, but I assure you – I KNOW YOU. If you’re reading this article I KNOW you’re a woman who feels happiest when you’re helping others – you’re a heart-centered nurturer.
Yup. Being a heart-centered nurturer is lovely (and I mean that sincerely), however when you help and give to others to the point of body, mind and spirit exhaustion, it’s not okay.
I read a #truthbomb by Danielle LaPorte a while back that said, Self-Care Is A Divine Responsibility and I couldn’t agree more. I work with hundreds of heart-centered women and soulful entrepreneurs and the one thing they all have in common is difficulty creating time for their personal care. And the solution to that imbalance is right there in the sentence – CREATING TIME is the key.
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First a little about me, I’m not a soft and flowery spiritual guru, I’m a Transformational Catalyst and carry more of a Dark Goddess vibe – I’m all about your transformation. So, instead of giving you all the fluffy tips in my self-care tool belt, I’ve decided to share three foundational self-care practices that my entire day-to-day life is built upon. Without each of these self-care pillars, my Goddess Life would be a flimsy house of cards instead of the solid temple it is today.
3 Foundational Goddess Lifestyle Pillars For Self-Care
1. Nighttime Rituals. Being exhausted carries a low vibration, so generally speaking, nothing good happens when you’re exhausted. You make decisions based on how you feel. For example; when you’re tired, you make tired decisions. You’re also a “crabby pants” and have way less patience than usual… and that’s just going to get you into unnecessary scuffles with others that will further annoy and deplete you (trust me on this, it turns into a spiral down the proverbial rabbit hole).
It’s totally Goddess to make sure you get 7 to 8 hours of sleep. Statistics show that’s the magic number of hours needed for most women to feel rested and rejuvenated. Power down your electronics at least three hours before you want to (eyelids closed) sleep. That means shut down your computer, tablet and phone. That time for me is 8pm unless I’m teaching or leading Circle. In our home lights go out at 11pm – no matter what. I’ve created a Nighttime Ritual that assists me in getting ready for sleep; I take an Epsom Salt bath with intuitively chosen essential oils and crystals, sip a cup of relaxing herbal tea and diffuse essential oils that support restful and deep sleep on my nightstand. Truth told with that magical combination, I’m usually asleep by 9:30-10pm every night (including weekends)!
2. Daily Rituals. This can be a journaling, listening to music, sitting in silence, taking a walk or meditating. Make it something you enjoy so you look forward to it. Years ago, when my children were young and life felt hectic and overwhelming, I created a ritual for “me time”. I get up 30 minutes before the rest of the family (6:00 am) to enjoy my morning cup of coffee in solitude with my fur babies.
To this day it’s my time to read, set intentions for my day, or just bask in the sounds of nature. The birds chirping in my yard puts a smile on my face, which begins my day in a high vibration. If you plan to action on this suggestion, please adjust your lights out time so that you get ample hours of sleep.
3. Connect To Your Desires. Your heartfelt desires are whispers from the Goddess within. SHE will guide you to take better care of yourself and point you in the in direction of your bliss and soul level fulfillment. Most women have a very weak relationship to the Goddess within; the ego tends to be loud and persistent, so therefore the ego wins most of the time. Take time each day to activate the right side of your brain (see below) to explore and discover the authentic YOU.
I have changed and evolved many, many times over the last decade. If I hadn’t made a practice of checking in and connecting to my desires, you would not be reading this article because I wouldn’t have pursued my current career with the same gusto and determination as I did! The Goddess within led me here to you!
To activate the right side of you – journal about your desires, paint or draw your desires into a piece of art, create a Vision Board, dance to the rhythm of your desires – whatever creative medium is most enjoyable for you. The point is to get in touch with your desires and create an intimate relationship with the authentic you.
My hope is that these three foundational self-care pillars will give you a starting point and assist you in building a strong Goddess Temple in which you can enjoy a robust, pleasure-filled and successful Goddess Life!
