What does it mean to be the star of your story? It means that you are the main character in your life and you are the only one that should ever be the star of your story.
Unfortunately, the majority of people don’t star in their own story. They give this special role away to someone else. This is the most important role of your entire life and you should always be the star.
Therefore, you shouldn’t let another person have this extremely important role for multiple reasons: They didn’t earn it and they don’t deserve it. They weren’t there with you as a baby when you were innocent and full of love. They didn’t grow and learn valuable life lessons with you. They weren’t there for all of the amazing victories and the greatest heartaches in your life. You were there for all of this—you are the one and only main character in your story.
Inevitably, so many people experience trauma, a breakup, a life-changing event or something that takes over in their life. As a result, the life event or the person that inflicted pain on them becomes the star of their story.
Undoubtedly, you will have characters and experiences in your life that will definitely shape you and sometimes rock your world. But, you have control over the meaning you give everything in your life. It’s not the life event, the person or the circumstance that keeps you feeling stuck and unworthy, it’s the meaning that you give it.
Alternatively, you can consciously make an effort every day to always be the star of your story. There is always a way to take the leading role back in your story. Life changes in a moment and you get to decide when that moment is!
3 ESSENTIAL FOUNDATIONS TO BECOMING THE STAR OF YOUR STORY:
Essential Foundation #1: Take Full Responsibility for Your Life
Don’t blame other people for your circumstances or for something that has happened in your life. When you put the blame on someone else, you are giving them the lead role in your story.
Essentially, this is what many people end up doing. When you don’t take responsibility for your life, it’s inevitable that you take on the supporting role. Blaming other people will keep you from being accountable for your situation. Consequently, this enables you to stay stuck in your situation or story and you don’t have to evolve or change.
There are so many people that have experienced a bad divorce or break-up, obesity, addiction, depression, financial issues, etc. As a result, they always blame their issues on someone else. They have an excuse for their situation and they’ve made someone else the star of their story.
Examples of Allowing Someone Else to Be the Star of Your Story:
- I’m in this situation because of my divorce or break-up.
- My ex is responsible for my circumstances.
- I’m overweight because my parents, spouse or significant other is also overweight.
- I can’t lose weight because I’m big boned—it runs in my family.
- I don’t have the financial success or career I want because I didn’t have the opportunity to go to college.
- My parents didn’t have money, so I didn’t get the same privileges as successful people.
- I have a problem with addiction because it runs in my family, so I will always be an addict.
- Depression runs in my family, so I will always be depressed—It’s just how I was made.
These are real issues and situations that many people will experience. Genetics and life circumstances can play a huge role in your life. However, they don’t have to play the starring role. These experiences are a reality for numerous people that found a way out of their limiting beliefs. They made a choice and they didn’t let genetics, circumstances or another person define them. Some people definitely might have more to overcome than others. Nonetheless, it all comes down to making a choice. Take full responsibility for your life and your life will change!
Essential Foundation #2: Change Your Blueprint –– Change Your Life
Your blueprint is an illusion of what you think your life should be. It’s based on experiences from childhood and life circumstances that are learned throughout your life. Therefore, you can experience so much pain because your life doesn’t match your blueprint.
Your blueprint doesn’t just talk to the circumstances around you—it talks to you as a whole entity. Your past and present, your conscious and subconscious, your fight or flight mechanisms. If you seek true change, you have to change YOU. You have to be willing to work on yourself every day. You have to build a muscle in your soul that will enable you to feel true happiness.
Have you ever watched a bad movie that you have no interest in? Do you continue to watch it, or do you turn it off? Unfortunately, there are so many people that are living a movie they wouldn’t watch. This is because they are trying to live up to a blueprint that is out of alignment with their soul. They are settling for a life they think they should be living.
Always remember that you should never settle for less than you deserve. You have the power to live an amazing life on your terms. You can change your destiny by changing your blueprint and being the star of your story.
Essential Foundation #3: Change your Primary Question –– Change Your Life
As I learned from Tony Robbins, a primary question is your default question for everything that happens in your life that causes you pain or didn’t go the way you planned. It plays over and over in your head and it’s always the same. We all have one and if you think about it for a moment, you have one too.
It was a huge A-HA for me when I realized that my primary question has controlled my every thought and action in my life.
My Old Powerless Question That I Always Asked Myself:
“Why is this always happening to me—I’m a good person?” This was my default question that I would continuously ask myself. It was like a broken record in my head until I decided to change it. This question consistently gave me an answer that made me feel completely powerless to my circumstances.
Here is one thing I know for sure: If you ask a lousy question you will get a lousy answer. In addition, I’ve learned that it’s extremely important to have an empowering primary question that becomes the only question you ask yourself.
My New Empowering Primary Question—The Only Question I Ask Myself:
What is the gift in this and what am I meant to learn? I love my new question because I always get an answer that empowers me instead of making me feel bad about myself. My new question has changed everything for me. It’s helped me to understand that life is always happening for me and there is always a lesson to learn. It’s enabled me to take full responsibility for everything in my life and to truly be the star of my story.
What is your New Primary Question? Observe the difference in the way you feel with your new question.
If you implement these 3 essential foundations you will build self-confidence and take back control of your life. You will become equipped with the tools to learn from the beautiful and the painful experiences in life. Most importantly, you will gain an unbelievable amount of strength within you that will enable you to never again let someone else become the star of your story. You will always be the one and only Star!
xoxo
Smile. Surrender. Shine.
