We all want success. Whether it’s successfully taking care of our bodies for vibrant health, increasing our skills to build a business or increase sales, manifesting a wealth flow, or luxuriating in the gaze of our beloved, we all have heart’s desires. Being replenished by relationships that nourish and stimulate the best aspects of our selves is a joy! Success can also be a rich, spiritual connection with our soul which intuitively guides our inspired actions. Success is peace of mind, feeling satisfied with our day and knowing that we matter.
What External Success May Look Like
External success can look like the food, home, car, clothes, vacation, volunteer or social activities society indicates. Yet, we’re often left wondering “What’s next?” after achieving the job, degree, marriage, or other goal we set. We seek and seek – that is the journey of life.
As humans we are designed to evolve our bodies, minds, hearts, morality, and soul connection. We are wired for it and languish if we don’t. LIFE courses through us as we learn new language, skills, information, and expand our competencies. Our confidence grows as does our personal power so that we contribute even more to others, our communities, and the world.
Factors That Hinder Our Evolution
The beliefs, patterns, and programming we received as children between birth and 10 years old. We lived in a hypnogogic state – our brains recorded everything around us from our family of origin’s behaviors, communications, interactions, and ‘rules for living’. Our extended family, school, religious institutions, and television broadcasts also let us know how the world worked and our place in it. Our life script became the ‘good girl, strong boy, smart, pretty, athletic, comic, artist, shy, or graceful child’, etc.. Our place in our family was defined and we complied. We had to – our survival depended on it.
But now, you’re an adult. You’re functioning in a marriage or not; in a job, unemployed, or as an entrepreneur. Now you may be the caregiver of older children and/or your parents. Perhaps family has blended with new rules, power dynamics and a reinvented culture. Old ways of being, thinking, and feeling may not serve who you are and what you want to achieve today.
Meet Your Controller
Your Controller helps you navigate through life. Your Controller is one of the earliest “voices” in the mind created from a psychic split of fear or overwhelm. The first time you needed the breast, a diaper change, warmth, or soothing, your physical body experienced sensations of fear which were ‘too much’. A psychic split occurred. You learned to adapt by compartmentalizing your mind. Your Controller learned behaviors to get the adults around you to respond. Crying is one method, laughing is another. How adults responded created beliefs about how much you matter.
Your mind is powerful and controls your body, heart, and spirit from sunrise to bedtime. Your Controller manages your schedule, food, appearance, who you interact with or who you avoid. Your success depends on your visibility in life…whether it is speaking, making videos, writing your book, or having sales conversations.
But sometimes our Controller puts the brakes to keep us safe from “perceived” danger triggering the Fight or Flight response. The Controller learned rules which are outdated. Transformational coaching is the solution to evolution. It helps you discover the banished aspects of yourself. It frees up tremendous life energy you are using to repress these aspects – and you don’t even know it!
Learning to Connect with The Controller
Learning to connect with The Controller and other voices is the key to successfully stepping into your fullest potential – your True Self. You learned to be an ego, but your soul knows you to be so much more. Our True Self remains un-excavated until we perform transformational shadow work to bring to light the greatest potential which lies dormant within us.
You will learn what is in your control and what is not. What is ‘your business’ versus ‘their business’ and ‘God’s business.’ There is freedom in attending to just your business.
Your Controller will get relief from being on duty 24/7; it’s exhausting! Evolving the mind’s voices is done with loving compassion on an energetic level. The Controller manages all the voices from “The Protector, Inner Critic, Judgment, Procrastinator, and Perfectionist”, to “The Wounded Self, Innocent Child, and The Courageous Heart” of infinite, eternal love. Enlightenment is reached accessing Pure Stillness. You have universal themes and unique personas to transform. Being able to access, mature, evolve and reprogram your Controller is possible and helps achieve your heart’s desires.
Success becomes assured when you embody more courage, confidence, take bold actions supporting focused goals, and celebrate results. Transformation of health, wealth, and love is achieved so that vibrant energy, flowing income, and nourishing relationships become everyday joys.
