Stress and anxiety are so common that we simply do not believe it’s possible to be an “unflustered” mom these days. Sometimes it’s even worn as a badge of honor; the exhaustion, the lack of time and space for yourself. Even when moms take a break, it’s seen as luxurious and often comes with loads of guilt. This is not okay. Moms not only deserve an “unflustered” life, they can be better mothers, better partners, and better bosses when they learn and utilize effective self-care strategies. But, not all self-care is created equal. The five anxiety styles is a novel framework for uncovering what strategies are most effective.