Perhaps you can relate with me. How many of you have ever felt like you were not enough? Not pretty enough, smart enough, young enough, old enough, rich enough, athletic enough, loving enough. I could go on, however I am sure I hit on something you can relate to!
Let me first say, these are all lies! I have lived off this fear and these stories for as long as I can remember. I remember back in the second grade when one of my “best” friends wrote on my autograph kitty that I was funny but fat. Since that day, I have never been thin enough. Really? I am allowing a seven year old to continue to star in my stories?! Unfortunately, some of our stories are so old that we do let them run our lives. This is because we have never really challenged them, we have always given into them. My fears of not being good enough, kept me playing small and accepting the “good enough”!
Now is the perfect time to kick “I am not enough” to the curb! And you can do it, no matter how old your stories may be. That is one of the best things about our human brain or our reticular activating system. It can be rewired if you give it a chance.
I want you to become aware of that voice inside your head. Some may call it your inner critic, your crazy lady or perhaps some of you have named yours. Whatever you call it, that little voice likes to get loud when you get ready to do something outside of your comfort zone. And, by becoming aware of her voice, she is going to get louder, so be prepared!
The time has come to stand in your power and begin the journey towards believing in yourself, that you are enough. My mantra is “I am enough”. I have a dog tag with this phrase that I wear when I need some extra support and I have signs around my house reminding me and my family that “I am enough”. We all are enough.
When I am about to do something scary, I remind myself that I am enough. So, what do I mean by this? It simply means, I am just what I am supposed to be right here, right now. As I learn to accept this, my stories get weaker and along with the voice in my head. But, I won’t lie to you, it’s not an easy road. However, once you start on the path, you won’t look back!
As with anything that I teach and coach through my programs, awareness and clarity are the first steps on your journey.
Here are a few tips to get you started!
- The next time you are in a situation where your inner critic starts in, listen to what it is saying to you. Just observe and write it down; who, what, where, when, why & how.
- Look over the list of lies your critic told you. What proof do you have that any of these may be even slightly true? I’m thinking not much, at least nothing that you can use to actually define you as not being enough. Past circumstances and feelings do not define you as a person.
- Strategize! Catch your inner critic in the act and come up with a strategy to quiet her during her tirades! One simple way is to ask yourself, “what do I know to be true, if anything, about what she is saying?”, finishing with the mantra, “I am enough!”.
I would love the opportunity to explore the lies your inner critic “romances” you with and to share additional strategies to allow you to stand in your power! I offer a complimentary discovery session so there is nothing to lose! Don’t let that voice tell you aren’t worth the time and effort! Stand in your power!
Challenge:
Simply become aware of her voice and the lies that she spreads. This on its own can do wonders to set you on the path of standing in your power!
