Living the Goddess Lifestyle: The Beauty & Power Of Your Inner Crone

In generations past a woman was considered OLD once she hit the big 4-0. Fast-forward to today…  I’m noticing that women in their forties and fifties are just getting started – me included! Middle age women everywhere are living their life full throttle … no apologies being given and no bullshit allowed.

I couldn’t be more thrilled to be 46, it’s the best I’ve ever felt and looked. I can pretty much guarantee that my 50^th birthday party is going to be an extravaganza of epic proportions in which I will be sure to dance on some tables, sip expensive champagne and spank some asses (yup I’m a spanker, you’ve been warned). You might be wondering why I would behave in such a “devil may care” way…  and the answer is simple, because my Inner Crone doesn’t feel the need to edit her words or her actions – she lives and speaks her truth. I love a good party and I make it a daily practice to celebrate all things big and small … AND I never miss an opportunity to celebrate ME, so my question to you is…

Why not?

The Crone is part of a sacred trio; the Maiden, the Mother and the Crone – and because she is the oldest, the crone is also the wisest.  Goddess Hecate is the Crone aspect of the Triple Goddess, forming a powerful triad with Persephone as the Maiden and Demeter as the Mother. The Crone is the keeper of the mysteries and her archetype corresponds to wisdom, change, transformation, death, rebirth and banishing. She is most often depicted as a shriveled up old woman, a hag or a witch but honestly I see Crone-dom in a WHOLE DIFFERENT WAY and I hope after reading this article you will too! I see a Modern Day Crone as being totally feisty, self confident, comfortable in her skin and living her authentic truth using the wisdom collected over her lifetime to guide her words and navigate her actions.

Sound sexy?

Well let me tell you, it is! Many women allow numbers to define them; a chronological number or a number on the scale …  I refuse to do that. I have a secret to my youthful appearance, palatable vibrancy and positive outlook and I’m going to share it with you now.

I chase feeling good.

I eat foods that will help me feel good, I exercise my body so it can feel good, I make healthy lifestyle choices (like going to bed by 11pm and waking with natural morning sunlight on my face) to feel good, I laugh as much as possible and only surround myself with positive, high vibrational people so I can feel good. The list goes on and on with all the things I do to ensure that I can feel good. They are all conscious choices on my part.

This is how I would describe my experience so far with middle age …

My head no longer suffers with the chaos and drama of youth, my need to please is far behind me and I stand strongly in my feminine power. It’s a lot quieter in my head these days too. My Inner Critic has been silenced for the most part by divine truth and guidance. Out of my mouth come words of wisdom that I have earned through painful life lessons learned and facing my fears. I own my sexuality and my divine right to revel in the throws of passions hot embrace. I say “no” when I don’t feel like doing something and give myself the permission of full body “YES” when it feels or tastes good. I allow myself to desire things, all sorts of things… even taboo things.

I boldly go after what I want without worrying about what others will think. I council clients, family and my community … I hold their fragile, hurting hearts in my hands as I work my medicine… I create and provide a safe container for healing and transformation to occur. I hold space like never before and hot damn it feels great!

I talk to Spirit and Spirit communicates with me. I own my gift of being a spiritual intuitive, a healer, a Priestess and a channel of divine light. I tell others when they hurt me without anger, and that takes courage. I admit my weak points without feeling bad about myself; I simply put some effort towards strengthening them. I have many miles beneath my feet and assorted scars from old wounds that have healed; they give my life character and my heart compassion. I can open my heart in ways that in the past were simply not possible for me; the expansion feels sublime and a little scary all at once.

My face shows some wrinkles, things on my body are more jiggly and my gray hair grows in quicker than I’d like but I take that in stride (most of the time … I really hate sitting in the hair salon for hours). The chapters of my life book have accumulated and I find myself in a love affair with my first-born, my daughter Chelsea. Gone are the days of exhausting power struggles, listening to snotty remarks and having to police her every move. We’re in the most delicious of places; two women who can meet for lunch, talk about EVERYTHING and share a toast to life, love and the pursuit of happiness. Honestly, there is not a person on this earth other than my brother who can make me laugh until tears stream down my face like my Chelsea, what a riot she is! I think this is my favorite chapter with her yet, my second favorite being the time period from when she was 8 months to 4 years old. That was a great chapter too… it kind of all went downhill once she went to kindergarten. But I digress!

So many things to embrace… so many things to look forward to; more and more sovereignty, financial freedom, emotional freedom, lazy days with my husband doing whatever we desire, grandchildren, traveling with girlfriends, etc… it’s a delicious list and I look forward to it all!

How do you see yourself aging? Do you hold limiting beliefs about what’s possible for your life and your looks as you age? These are conversations that I feel need to be had … in my world women lift each other up, we never compete. We collaborate, hold each other’s hands, heal each other and in turn heal the world. This is possible for you too.

The Maiden, Mother and Crone are present in all women at all phases of her life. So in other words, you do not have to be over 40 or 50 to be a Crone. These aspects are symbolic. For example, have you ever looked into a little girls eyes and seen wisdom? That is her Inner Crone shining through, the wisest part of her soul. Have you ever known an elderly woman who is sassy? Let’s use Betty White as an example, her chronologic age might qualify her as a Crone but Whoo Hoo – that woman is NOT old by any means.

The biggest gift you can give yourself is to allow all three aspects of the Triple Goddess to flow in your life; dance free and wild like the Maiden, create, birth and nurture like the Mother and be the guardian of the wisdom and life’s mysteries like the Crone. This is one of my sacred practices, allowing all that needs to come through to come through, when it needs to.

I feel a shift in energy on the planet happening right now. An ascension of feminine energy … and it’s so exciting. Collectively we are redefining the definition of what it means to be a women in all of her aspects; Maiden, Mother and Crone. I personally will ROCK my Crone like it ain’t nobody’s business!

I hope you’ll join me …