Recently I received an email from a reader who felt her life was just not where she thought it would be (and should be) by now. She expected that by 37, she’d be married with kids and a quaint house. She also thought that by now, she’d have advanced more in her career and would have the means to take exotic vacations. She said she’d been trying so hard to make things happen, but none of her expectations had come to fruition. She asked me for insight into when things would all work out. Would it be soon? I knew intuitively that many of her dreams would come true, but not until she loosened her grip and allowed for the Divine to work it’s magic. My advice to her was simple: Just chill out for awhile!
How many times have YOU wanted something sooooo badly, but no matter how much you visualized, hoped, prayed, and manifested it just didn’t come to fruition? So eventually you threw your hands up in the air and decided to just give up…. Then as if by magic, once you’ve moved on, the dream you let go of came into your life—you got the new job or promotion, met the “one,” or found the new home.
This is one of the most amusing paradoxes of life—We often get what we want after we no longer give a hoot! I’ve seen this phenomenon again and again in my clients’ lives. And, I’ve experienced it in pretty much every area of my own life, from my career to meeting the right partner. It may seem like the Universe is playing a dirty trick, but that’s far from the reality; it’s all just part of the Divine’s plan for each of us.
Giving up your agenda is one of the most powerful things you can do. Truly! Of course, it’ important to have goals and dreams and take action to bring them into your life. But, if you start to live, sleep, and breath your future, you actually lose tons and tons of power. When longing, yearning, and obsessing become your primary emotions, you disconnect from Spirit and close yourself to the incredible possibilities the Divine has in store for you. As I often say, the now is where ALL your power is. By obsessing about what you want in the future, you’re bound to feel something is missing from the present. You shift from living in gratitude and appreciation to lack, which just begets more lack.
Yes, you may really want and deserve something. But, as the Arrow Master in my Wisdom of the Hidden Realms Oracle Deck notes: The only way to hit the target is to allow the arrow of your intention to fly unencumbered by your eagerness to see it travel exactly the way you want it to go. You should shot for the stars, but then you must turn your desires over to the Divine, allowing it to work its magic and weave your life together as it’s meant to be. What is yours will come to you… as long as you allow it to by living in the now.
Exercise:
Just Chill!
What desires and goals might you be gripping onto? Write them down. Then in your journal investigate the following questions: Why might I be obsessed about getting this goal? What am I making it mean? (i.e. that I can finally be happy, successful, cool) Then on a separate piece of paper, write a letter to Spirit. Talk about how you’re turning this over and trust in the Divine plane. You might want to keep the letter, put it in a God box, or do a ritual of release (such as burning or burying it.)
Appreciate the Now!
Go on a gratitude cleanse for one full week. Make a conscious effort to look for what you’re grateful for in the now. I challenge you to write down 20 each day. You’ll be amazed at the transformative power of a new set of eyes!
