You enter a party buzzing with excitement. Everyone is glowing with charm and flare. You’re feeling good as you enjoy the sights and sounds of the festivities. Then your gaze is drawn towards a woman who has just arrived. She is beautiful and you are transfixed by her majestic glow. There is something about her which has captivated you along with everyone else…you just encountered a Love Goddess brimming with sexy self-confidence.
So here you are desiring to attract your Life Partner or Soul Mate. Let’s see, he’s strong, intelligent, happy and confident. He could make your life a little brighter, even a bit more yummy and delicious. With him around, you could feel whole. Or, would you?
Let me share, to live a bold and powerful life, you should feel whole, happy and grateful with the life you have now. It’s the energy of gratitude that attracts Mr. Right to you. This is the secret sauce that will start the magical wheels turning towards juicy love. But in all honesty ladies, you don’t need another person to make you happy; this belief is just setting you up for disappointment. What you truly desire is to be with another person to share your life with, to establish memories, and create amazing adventures with you. The most powerful ingredient in your elixir of love is your…confidence.
Keep in mind, low self-esteem and low self-worth often come hand-in-hand with co-dependence. Men can be like Bloodhounds. They can sniff out desperate women a mile away and they go running for the hills. They do this, because needy and clingy women are unattractive, and in their mind, high-maintenance. Unfortunately, clinginess shows up in so many ways. Neediness is a red flag for insecurity. Success, happiness, and confidence are aphrodisiacs.
As I’ve said already, strength and confidence are traits which attract men to you.
So what stands in the way? It’s your self-defeating thoughts. You recognize them when you feel worse. Your life feels dull and lifeless. It’s so easy to fall back into this disempowering behavior which drains your strength and confidence. When you notice your thoughts shifting in this downward direction, shut them out and replace them with an empowering positive aspect about you.
Here are 4 ways you can build your sexy self-confidence:
1. Freedom from the “Comparison” Trap
Comparing ourselves to the people we see on TV, in magazines, on the street or our friends is TRAP #1 to self-defeating thoughts of who we are. Seriously ask yourself, has the comparison trap made you feel any better about you? It’s safe to say “No”. Then why do you continue to punish yourself?
You have some wonderful attributes that make you uniquely you. Let them rise and shine for everyone to see because you don’t gain anything by thinking small. Take a hold of passion that makes you come alive.
2. Follow Your Intuition
Your intuition is that gut feeling which guides you to take a particular action or not. The more you TRUST your intuition, this will have a miraculous affect in raising your self-confidence. Why? Because you learn to TRUST yourself. When your inner voices is louder than the voice of public opinion, this is when you’ve truly mastered your life.
3. Understand the “Perfectionist Myth”
Perfectionism is a trap that keeps you in a state of paralysis – robing you of your joy. The Perfectionist doesn’t see the gift and beauty before them, instead they punish themselves by over-analyzing what “could” have been better. This is the trap of not feeling good enough or worthy. When you can live in a state of imperfection, that’s when you can live a life filled with more peace!
4. Step into your feminine power by:
- Focusing on your good traits
- Emphasizing the wonderful things that make you uniquely you
- Giving yourself praise vs being overly critical, and
- Pampering yourself because you deserve to be loved…by YOU!
Let’s be real, old habits die hard, so you have to feed your mind with thoughts, feelings and a belief that’s more appetizing than the old belief that’s trying to hang on for dear life. Be a champion for you. Be proud of who you are. Embodying positive thoughts and to embrace an empowering outlook on life, is more than just wishful thinking; you have to tell the “itty bitty shitty committee” to shut up and DECIDE to feel great about yourself. This will make you feel satisfied and happy. And from this, your sexy self-confidence springs forth!
