Why is the setup of your bedroom important in feng shui? First of all, most people spend about 1/3 of their time in the bedroom. It is the spot where our bodies and minds balance, recover, rejuvenate and more every day. It is essential that our bedrooms to be a place where we feel physically, mentally and emotionally safe – a place where we can be ourselves and express ourselves. Our bedroom is also a symbol of our inner self. Who you are and what you desire for your life to be like should be reflected in this heart of your home.
While the design of each person’s bedroom should be unique to that person’s needs and desires, here’s a list of 5 tips to start with in your bedroom:
- Put your bed in a place so that when you lay down, you can see anyone entering the room.
- Place the headboard against a solid wall – this will bring a feeling of stability and support.
- Does the lighting in your bedroom reflect its use? Is there low, soft lighting?
- Keep under the bed free from clutter.
- There has also been a great deal of advice about having mirrors in the bedroom. You really don’t want to have mirrors in a place where you can see your reflection while you are lying in bed. This is for a number of reasons. It could disrupt your sleep; make you think someone else is in the room when they are not. Mirrors also reflect and amplify energy. If you want to experiment, try covering your mirrors with a scarf or sheet and see if you get a different energetic feel in the room, or if you sleep better.
When you are setting up your bedroom, consider your purpose for the bedroom; is it really a cozy sanctuary for you? Do you really need a computer, video game console, or TV in the room? Do you absolutely NEED to sleep with your cell phone? Think about not only your safety and creating a safe environment in the bedroom but remember that every object in our environment has an impact on us – physically and psychologically.
So, let’s move more directly to the topic of love. I firmly believe that in order to attract love into your life, you must first love yourself. Do you truly love yourself – and ALL of yourself? The best parts, the worst parts – all parts. And do you love yourself TODAY, now, as you are? If you are saying things to yourself like I love myself, but I’ll love myself more when I lose the next 10 pounds, or when I get my next degree, or a new job? That is all future talk and it is not unconditional. You must love yourself unconditionally ALL the time – accept every facet of yourself and be grateful for who you are right now! If you don’t feel like this, there are a number of things that you can do to change your feelings about yourself. One of them is through the way you set up your environment. Imagine what a person who completely loves and accepts herself wants to be surrounded by and feel like in the bedroom. Write down what you think the bedroom of this person who completely loves and accepts herself looks like! Then, take an inventory of your room. How far is the gap between your imagined bedroom and your bedroom? Now, what can you do to bridge the gap?
One thing you may be called to do is to get rid of the clutter. Clutter here could be ANYTHING that you do not love, do not use, and does not belong in the bedroom. It could also be something that reminds you of a bad time in your life, a bad relationship, or a time when you did not completely love yourself.
Another thing you may be called to do is to get some new bed linens or curtains, or change the artwork, or even paint the walls. Whatever you do, focus on the feeling that you want to have in the bedroom, what you want to bring into your life and how you want to BE in the world.
