Sometimes chance events in life propel us into transformation and other times there is an opportunity to consciously choose transformation. Transformation can be an exciting time. A journey to be lived and enjoyed when you step into the driver’s seat.
The Way of Chance: Life has taught me transformation can happen by chance. like Dorothy being swept up in a cyclone from Kansas and dropped into the Land of Oz where all was strange, extremely far away and quite uncomfortable. In that scenario, Dorothy really had no choice. Life had a plan for her, and it conspired to make it happen.
We have all experienced chance transformation at some point in our lives and I’m sure you’ll agree it’s not much fun. We can look back with a smile knowing that we made it through and are better for it. When change is ignited unexpectedly, we go into trauma response: fight, flight, freeze or fawn which can make the process more challenging.
Dorothy was a warrior unknown to her at the time. She fought and forged ahead to find her way home. Her life, personal values and belief systems were transformed along the journey. She discovered her strength, confidence, resilience, and ability to lead others. Dorothy adapted to overcome and dare I say not by choice. The real magic was finding out Dorothy held the power within her to grant her own wish. You also hold that same power. Get ready!
The Way of Choice: When we use the power of deliberate choice to transform our life, it is a completely different experience. One in which we are in the driver seat of our lives. We have the gift of awareness that can identify where our lives, selves, belief systems, relationships and surroundings need to transform to align to and move in the direction of the life we desire to live, to become the person we know we are meant to be.
The power of choice is the foundation on which our lives are built. Choice gives us agency and control over our own lives to create the life we want to live and to shape the person we become.
Every choice produces a result. The power of choice determines how we experience life. It allows us to consciously commit to prioritize our personal transformation to achieve our goals and reach our dreams. The exciting part is the nervous system feels safer when we choose v. chance leaving us more receptive to transform and evolve towards our highest and best. It’s game on!
I have been thrown into chance transformation often in life as many have. I got knocked down and tossed around yet somehow came out a better version of myself. Wisdom began to take the lead and instead of waiting for life to push me into transformation I began to ask, “what would it look like if I decided to explore it by choice? What if I could evolve in a gentler, easier, and fun way?” Guess what? You can!
As I pondered my past experiences asking what decisions would I need to make to transform and evolve consciously, I experienced an aha moment and the answers came, and the process emerged. I share that process with you to support you in navigating change.
6 Simple and Actionable Steps to Change Your Life by Choice:
- Create Clarity: Define your vision and identify the area of your life you desire to transform. Clarity brings intention and intention is the driving energy towards your desire.
- Say “YES” to Possibility: Be receptive to new opportunities and possibilities that align with your vision. You may be surprised at the doors that begin to open. Believe you are capable, worthy, and deserving of achieving it.
- Passionately Commit: Show up for yourself and pledge yourself wholeheartedly to your vision. Take ownership of your desires and goals. Take small action steps that move you closer to your vision one step at a time. Make the decision you are all in to create lasting change.
- Rewire limiting beliefs: Try to be aware of any resistance to moving forward you may experience. Identify and challenge the validity of such beliefs. Replace negative self-talk with empowering affirmations that support your journey of transformation.
- Drive it home: Stay focused on your vision, keep promises to yourself even when it feels uncomfortable. Continue taking consistent action steps to build forward momentum towards your goals.
- Celebrate every step you take. No matter how big or how small. Recognize your dedication to you. Recognize the brave, strong, courageous woman that you are who deserves to celebrate your accomplishments.
Transformation by choice requires clarity, commitment, and action. By following these six steps each time you desire to transform an area of your life you will be well on your way to creating lasting change and living the life you desire. Transformation is a journey to be lived and enjoyed as wisdom blossoms there. Celebrate the small wins and delight in choosing to create your best life.
