Relationships are important, especially your closest relationships. Who you chose to spend time within life and at work affects the direction your life takes, the support system you have, and the quality of your life and work experience. Human Design holds keys to help you build great relationships.
Relationships are a two way street, a give and take. Being able to understand someone at a deeper level gives you the ability to form a closer and more sincere bond. The two best qualities you can bring to a relationship are compassionate understanding and deep listening. When you listen, really listen and work to understand without judgement, you give people a gift. This also helps to build trust. Trust is the foundation for all good relationships and getting to know people at a level beyond the casual and superficial builds trust.
So, what keys does Human Design have that can help you build close relationships? Here are 3 keys.
- Human Design helps you understand energy types, yours, and others, so you can gain a better understanding of how people are wired to operate in the world, make decisions, and work with each other.
- Understanding someone’s energy type gives you insight into what they need to feel valued, supported, and cared about. Each type has a set of challenges they face in life. Understanding these challenges helps you understand what others are going through and how you can be helpful to them.
- Each Human Design Energy Type is designed to interact with the world in a unique way. Some types are built to start or initiate but not necessarily finish things. We might judge them as scattered because they move on to the next new idea before completing what they started when that is simply how their energy is designed to work. Some types are built to respond to what is going on in the world. They may try to start things, but it usually doesn’t go well, and they don’t often get the result they were hoping for. We might judge them as unsuccessful when in fact it is more of a timing issue than a matter of success and when they get the timing right, they can be unstoppable.
The point to understand is that we are not all the same. Our energies are designed to be different but complimentary. In our society, sometimes we see differences as a negative and we judge people when they don’t behave like we do. Differences are not negative. Differences are the juicy part of who we are and understanding those differences gives you a whole new understanding on which to build trusted relationships.
Energy Types
There are 5 energy types in Human Design: Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, and Reflector. Each type has a unique way of being. Understanding how their energy operates can give you insight into why they behave in certain ways. For example, some energy types need more rest than others and may opt not to go out after work. It’s nothing personal. They’re not anti-social. They may just need to rest and recharge. Giving people the latitude to be who they are without judgement is an important part of building trust. Everyone wants to be accepted for who they are.
When we have the facts about energy types, we are less likely to make up a story around a situation that is filled with incorrect assumptions and judgements. When you understand the 5 energy types, what they need to feel supported, and the challenges their type deals with, you can develop an understanding of how to better support them and show compassion for what they are dealing with. Sincere understanding always builds trust. In the example above, suggesting lunch rather than making your coworker feel bad for not joining in after work is a wonderful way to show support and understanding.
How To Best Support an Energy Type to Build Trust
Each Human Design Energy Type has a set of challenges built into their energy type that they must deal with. Perhaps it’s frustration, anger, self-worth, not feeling heard, settling, or waiting for right timing. Whatever the issue, supporting people through their challenges and giving them the space to operate the way that is correct for their type can go a long way toward building a trusted relationship.
Consider this, some people can make quick decisions and they will be the right decisions for them. But others need to” sleep on it”, meaning they need time to validate that their initial decision is still the right decision for them over time. When longer decision time is needed, forcing them to make a quick decision puts pressure on them and after you feel like everything has been decided, they may come back in a few days and change their mind! They may feel embarrassed that they changed their minds and hurt feelings or mis-understandings can occur. You can minimize this kind of mis-understanding to a great degree by understanding how the distinct types make decisions.
You don’t have to be a Human Design expert to gain a basic understanding of energy types. And this knowledge alone can go a long way toward building a trusted relationship based on understanding so you can improve your closest relationships.
To learn about the 5 Human Design energy types and their unique challenges, download my free ebook, 3 Sacred Gifts You Can Learn from Your Human Design Chart, at https://NancyOKeefeCoaching.com
